Thirteen sensual aphrodesiac foods to improve your sex life

 
Thirteen sensual aphrodesiac foods, Chocolate

Almost everyone wants to improve their love life, find the perfect partner and have better sex. Some of the biggest pharmaceutical sales in history come from performance-enhancing drugs. What about using natural inducements for romance such as chocolate-dipped strawberries, grapes or truffles? Add some of these delectable delights to your arsenal of temptations and woo your lover into bliss.

Sensual foods
Chocolate -- Chocolate works like no other food to stimulate human sexuality. It's delicious, melts on the tongue and has an erotic quality even when not thinking of sex. According to Amy Reiley in her book, "Romancing the Stove: The Unabridged Guide to Aphrodisiac Foods," chocolate helps thin the blood, improve circulation to sensitive parts and strengthen the heart enabling aiding endurance.

Strawberries --Try them dipped in chocolate for the ultimate aphrodisiac experience. There's really nothing that compares with grasping the little green leaves on top of a juicy strawberry dipped in luscious dark chocolate, and placing it between your lover's parted lips.

Espresso --With its pleasingly bitter tang and exotic scent, expressohelps to pump the blood. In her aphrodisiac cookbook, "The New InterCourses," Martha Hopkins recommends espresso for its ability to extend sexual performance and maintain the libido, increasing pleasure even for just a few delicious extra seconds.

Oysters -- Oystershave a long reputation for being a leading aphrodisiac. They're high in protein, low in fat and feel luscious in the mouth. And of even greater importance, they're high in the mineral zinc, says Reiley, an critical nutrient in the production of testosterone.

Asparagus --If it looks like something you're familiar with, it should. The asparagus resembles part of the male body and according to the "Doctrine of Signatures", penned in the 16th century, that which resembles one thing may improve that which it looks like. So, according to the theory, if it resembles a sexual organ, it is meant by nature to aid your sexuality. Even though the Doctrine was merely a theory, it's now known that asparagus is rich in calcium, vitamin E, phosphorus and potassium, offering extra energy to improve sexual endurance and stimulate sex hormones.

Ginger and Cayenne --Both of theseplay a role in the aphrodisiac department by encouraging increased, oxygen-rich blood flow to some of the body's most sensitive areas -- And that translates to greater pleasure.

Rosemary --This delicious herb associated with Aphrodite, the goddess of love, also boosts blood supply and helps increase sensitivity of the skin. Include it in your cooking and sprinkle a few drops of essential oil in the bath.

Bananas -- Bananas are another go-to aphrodisiac food not only because they resemble the male phallus, but because they are high in nutrients that enhance the production of sex hormones.

Basil -- Basil was used long ago by women as a scent of seduction to drive their men wild with desire. It's a strong aphrodisiac and is infused into some perfumes. Use it in a salad, a pesto or just leave some of the fresh leaves around to entice your man.

Pomegranate -- Pomegranate symbolized the love goddess Aphrodite in ancient Greece, notes Reiley. Modern researchers are conducting studies into the affects of pomegranate juice for the treatment of erectile dysfunction.

Truffles -- Trufflesare a great aphrodisiac for the woman in your life. They're rich in amino acids and their scent is similar to that of a male pheromone, or sex hormone.

Grapes -- Grapes areassociated with Bacchus, the Roman god of ecstasy, and are a close contender with chocolate for being the top aphrodisiac. What could be more romantic than being fed peeled grapes, one by one by your lover, and waiting for that juicy, sweet explosion of flavor in your mouth?

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Women And Sex

Women And Sex

What You Need To Know

•     Women can get aroused by looking at other women, even if they're not gay.

•     Women who feel good about themselves orgasm more easily.

•     Your partner would rather you cheat physically than emotionally.

    "Women feel less guilt about a sexual affair than men." Tweet This Quote 

The study of women's sexuality is relatively new in the grand scale of research history, but now science is finding statistics about it that make most women say, "Duh." Here are a few recent studies that might surprise some men.

1- Women Get Turned On By Other Women
Women tend to become aroused by all sorts of erotica, including scenarios with men, men and women, and just women, which indicates a bisexual arousal pattern. This doesn't mean women all behave in a bisexual manner. Nor does it mean that your wife will be game to bring home the cute receptionist from her office for a three-way. It simply means that many women can be turned on by both thoughts or images of both genders. This is different from most straight men, who only become aroused by heterosexual erotica, and gay men, who mostly become aroused by homosexual material.

2- Women Who Think They're Hot Orgasm Easier
Body image is connected to sexuality for women. Women who are more positive about their own genitals find it easier to orgasm and are more likely to engage in sexual-health-promoting behaviors, such as having regular gynecological exams or performing self-examinations.

3- Women Would Prefer You Cheat
Women fear emotional infidelity from their partners more than physical infidelity, and men fear the opposite. That means long, lingering platonic lunches might drive your gal more crazy than knowing you had a one-time hookup. As for their behavior, women feel less guilt about a sexual affair than men. But they feel a lot of guilt about an emotional affair.

4- A Woman Can Be Wet And Not Mentally Aroused
Women's brains can separate mental arousal from genital arousal. The two function separately. For instance, even if she is not mentally stimulated, a woman's body can have a physiological reaction to sex. (Thus the confusion of a few rape victims who experience a spontaneous orgasm during the trauma.) It's also how prostitutes can work without actually being turned on by their customers. And women can sometimes be mentally aroused and have trouble becoming wet and wild down below.

5- Women Feel Bonded After Sex
In general, women have less ability to have a stand-alone physical relationship because their bodies release oxytocin during orgasm. Oxytocin, the female-bonding hormone, is also released during breastfeeding. For that reason, women sometimes develop feelings through sex even when they don't mean to. Yes, that's why you keep getting texts from that girl you casually hooked up with.

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Proven Signs She's Interested in you

 
Proven Signs She's Interested in you

People's first impressions of one another depend heavily on non-verbal information. With regard to our communication, 55% is non-verbal, 38% is based on speaking signals and only 7% has anything to do with what you actually say, according to the Social Issues Research Center. It stands to reason, then, that if you want to know whether or not a woman is interested in you, you should zero in on her non-verbal signals. Here we highlight 10 proven ways that women consciously and unconsciously let you know that they're into you. Learn them, and your dating life will never be the same again.

No.1 
Eye play

Eye contact is a powerful mode of communication among humans, and repeated or prolonged eye contact usually serves two main purposes: to convey interest or hostility. When it comes to the former, ethologist  Irenaus Eibl-Eibesfeldt was the first to describe how women the world over from New York to New Delhi let their eyes do the talking. To figure out whether she wants to talk to you, watch out for a glance that catches your eye, breaks eye contact and then catches your eye again shortly afterward. If you notice that she looks at you once but doesn't look back, she's not interested. Also, don't worry that you have to catch this signal the first time it's made. Research has determined that women will continue to send it to you when you've piqued their curiosity, possibly because it takes men a while to process receiving it,  as well as harness the courage to strike up a conversation.

No.2 
Head tilt and smile

Another flirty gesture that's been amply described and investigated by scientists interested in non-verbal behavior is what is referred to as head canting. Essentially, head canting is simply a fancy name for when a person tilts their head to one side. In women, when this tilt is accompanied by exposing the neck and a small smile, it sometimes means that you've caught her attention. Paired with eye play, this combination can be devastatingly attractive to men.

No.3 
Mirroring gestures

There's a reason they say imitation is the most sincere form of flattery. It turns out that when a woman digs you, or wants to sell you a new suit, she'll copy your moves. For example, she'll touch her face, reach for her glass or adjust her body a few seconds after you do. It's not just women, however, who can use this information to their advantage. When you mirror her gestures, she'll feel more at ease around you. She'll also get the impression that you two are alike, which will increase her opinion of you, given that humans tend to have warmer feelings toward people they believe to be like themselves. Just remember to avoid being obvious -- overt mimicking will leave her with the impression that you're making fun of her.

No.4 
Open postures

Both men and women send important signals to others simply by changing the orientation and postures of their bodies. A woman who has her body turned away from yours, particularly if it's at a 90-degree angle, is non-verbally blocking your attempts at getting to know her. Crossing her arms and leaning away from you are two other stances that indicate that a conversation will be a non-starter. Poses that suggest she's receptive to further communication with you are much more open. For example, she'll turn her body to face yours, her arms will be uncrossed and she'll lean in toward you.

No.5 
Friendly response to your chat-up

Forget all the pickup lines you've ever rehearsed. When it comes to gauging her interest in you, the wittiness of your remarks appears to be much less important than how she responds. A monosyllabic answer, particularly when delivered in a clipped tone, is her way of shutting you down. A smiling, friendly response, however, is a green light to follow up with further conversation. To minimize the amount of time at your next social event that you spend speaking to women who simply aren't interested, open with questions that can be responded to simply. That way, if she's not interested, she can exit the conversation quickly. And if she is, you'll know right away.

No.6 
She shares back

Once you've got the ball rolling in the conversation department, try taking things to the next level by sharing something about yourself with her. The less you know her, the more positive and less personal the information should be, or you risk scaring her off. A reciprocal response where she offers up a similar level of information about herself is a hint that she has a favorable view of you, since both women and men tend to disclose personal details to people they like. Also, though you might think it's superficial to bond over a mutual love of barbecue chips, sharing serves to increase the feeling of intimacy between two people, meaning she'll like you even more.

No.7 
She gets close

Merely being physically close to another person appears to increase how much we like them. Moreover, in opposite sex pairings, physical proximity appears to augment attraction between two people. When a woman deliberately moves closer towards you, she may therefore be luring you into liking her more. Let her make this move first before you reciprocate, however, as a sudden invasion of personal space may be worrisome to her if you read her signals wrong.

No.8 
Teasing

When you were a kid, your number one way of showing a girl that you were smitten with her was likely by stuffing some sand in her mouth. Consider teasing to be the adult version of this behavior. Both men and women use teasing as a way to let another person know they're crushing on them. For women, teasing has also been a way of testing your intentions. So don't be too sensitive here -- she might just be trying to assess your true level of interest.

No.9 
Lip licking

Another kinetic gesture that women often unconsciously engage in in order to show their interest is licking their lips. This behavior serves to draw your attention to her lips and indicate that a kiss could be in the cards. You should exercise caution in interpreting this behavior, however, to avoid committing an embarrassing social gaff. Occasional licking may mean she's into you, but frequent licking may simply indicate a bad habit. So before you swoop in for a smooch, take stock of whether the rest of her behavior matches up with her lips.


No.10 
Touching or flicking hair

For more than 40 years, researchers have been cataloging the non-verbal behaviors women use to let men know they're interested (and vice versa). One important category of flirting is referred to as kinetic gestures, and it includes the oldest trick in the book: hair tossing. But while a casual, seductive toss or brief stroke of the hair can be her way of letting you know that she enjoys your company, continually toying with her tresses may suggest she's nervous or uncertain about you.

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Interesting Facts about Women

 
10-15% of women cannot reach orgasm from intercourse alone

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Just when you think you know something about women, turns out there's more than meets the eye. At least from a scientific point of view. For example, did you know that female ejaculate is similar to male ejaculate, minus the sperm? Yeah, we didn't think so.

Here are five fun facts you may not know about women. Now you can impress your friends with your extensive knowledge of the female body. That is if you can do it without looking like Brainy Smurf.

No.1 10-15% of women cannot reach orgasm from intercourse alone

Sorry, boys, but it's true. Psychotherapist and author of Cue Cards for Life: Gentle Reminders for Better Relationships, Christina Steinorth, points to a 2009 ABC Primetime report that states that 75% of women need a little help climaxing. Professor of psychology and behavioral neuroendocrinology at Emory University Kim Wallen believes it might have something to do with how far the clitoris is from the vagina. Any more than 2.5 centimeters, and it might be difficult for a woman to achieve orgasm. But Wallen is not the first to research this topic. Turns out Princess Marie Bonaparte, great-grand niece of Napoleon, thought so too, which led her to a series of unfortunate surgeries in the 1920s. All the more reason you should whip out those sex toys and put your tongue and fingers work. 

No.2 Women get blue balls

Or pink balls. Or blue ovaries, as the case may be. Dr. Gudelsky says that “both male and female genitals are made up of erectile tissues that become engorged with blood during sexual excitement. If there is no release during orgasm, there will be much discomfort from all that pressure.” The official fancy medical term? Vasoconstriction. Just because a woman doesn’t necessarily ejaculate doesn’t mean she can’t feel uncomfortable when there’s a lack of release. So next time you start complaining about blue balls, don’t forget she needs to get off, too.

No.3 Orgasms can relieve menstrual cramps

Tell your lady to put away the Midol and just do you. A healthy sex life can alleviate those nasty menstrual cramps that plague women once a month. According to a 2005 article in Redbook, studies have shown that the oxytocin and endorphins released during sex can increase your pain tolerance by up to 70%. That means less pain before her period -- and believe it or not, even during childbirth. Says sex therapist, couples counselor and sex advice columnist Dr. Miro Gudelsky, “Orgasms are one of the best cures for PMS. The reason being that orgasms relieve swelling around the genitals.”

No.4 Birth control can interfere with a woman's ability to assess a mate

It’s hard enough trying to pick a long-term partner; throw birth control in the mix and a woman’s ability to meet Mr. Right can become completely twisted. Under normal circumstances, a woman subconsciously chooses a man who would make a good genetic match. But if she’s on birth control, the hormonal deluge flips her senses. For biological purposes, women prefer a mate who is genetically different from them to decrease the chance of abnormalities in offspring. But according to a 2007 University of Liverpool study, birth control throws a wrench in nature’s grand plan by causing women to choose men who are genetically similar to them. Though no one is 100% sure why the pill affects attraction, some scientists theorize it may affect marriages in the long run. A woman on the pill might start dating a man similar to her genetically only to find she is no longer attracted to him once off the pill. Food for thought if you’re dating someone on the pill.

No.5 Women taking birth control can be perceived as less attractive

As most of us know, the pill prevents pregnancy by inhibiting ovulation. Nothing earth shattering there. But Dr. Alexandra Alvergne and her colleague Dr. Virpi Lummaa of the University of Sheffield found that the unfortunate side effect is a reduction in woman’s attractiveness. Over the course of a normal menstrual cycle, hormones fluctuate, vocal pitches change and even body odors are altered. During ovulation, these subtle changes increase a woman’s attractiveness because they signify fertility. It’s hard to believe that men could even pick up on something simple as ovulation. Yet they do. A 2007 University of New Mexico study found that strippers actually earn more money when ovulating. A significantly higher $70 an hour vs. the average $35 for a woman menstruating, and $50 when a woman is neither menstruating nor ovulating.

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14 things you should know about sex

14 things you should know about sex

1: You can get pregnant the first time that you have sex.

You may have heard that a girl can't get pregnant the first time that she has sex. The truth is, if a boy and a girl have sex and don’t use contraception, she can get pregnant, whether it’s her first time or she has had sex lots of times.

A boy can get a girl pregnant the first time he has sex. If you’re female and have sex, you can get pregnant as soon as you start ovulating (releasing eggs). This happens before you have your first period. Find out more about periods and the menstrual cycle.

Using contraception protects against pregnancy. Using condoms also protects against sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Before you have sex, talk to your partner about contraception, and make sure you’ve got some contraception. Find out about getting contraception and tips on using condoms.

2: You can get pregnant if a boy withdraws (pulls out) his penis before he comes.

There's a myth that a girl can’t get pregnant if a boy withdraws his penis before he ejaculates (comes). The truth is, pulling out the penis won’t stop a girl from getting pregnant.

Before a boy ejaculates, there's sperm in the pre-ejaculatory fluid (pre-come), which leaks out when he gets excited. It only takes one sperm to get a girl pregnant. Pre-come can contain sexually transmitted infections (STIs), so withdrawing the penis won't prevent you from getting an infection.

If a boy says he’ll take care to withdraw before he ejaculates, don’t believe him. Nobody can stop themselves from leaking sperm before they come. Always use a condom to protect yourself against STIs, and also use other contraception to prevent unwanted pregnancy.

3: You can get pregnant if you have sex during your period.

There's a myth that a girl can’t get pregnant if she has sex during her period. The truth is, she can get pregnant at any time of the month if she has sex without contraception.

Sperm can survive for several days after sex, so even if you do it during your period, sperm can stay in the body long enough to get you pregnant.

4: You can get pregnant if you have sex standing up, sitting down or in any other position.

You may have heard the myth that a girl can’t get pregnant if she has sex standing up, sitting down, or if she jumps up and down afterwards. The truth is, there’s no such thing as a ‘safe’ position if you’re having sex without a condom or another form of contraception.

There are also no ‘safe’ places to have sex, including the bath or shower. Pregnancy can happen whatever position you do it in, and wherever you do it. All that's needed is for a sperm to meet an egg.

5: You can't get pregnant by having oral sex.

You may have heard that you can get pregnant by having oral sex. The truth is, a girl can’t get pregnant this way, even if she swallows sperm. But you can catch STIs through oral sex, including gonorrhoea, chlamydia and herpes. It’s safer to use a condom on a penis, and a dam (a very thin, soft plastic square that acts as a barrier) over the female genitals if you have oral sex. 

6: Drinking alcohol doesn't make you better in bed.

There's a myth that drinking alcohol makes you perform better in bed. The truth is, when you’re drunk it’s hard to make smart decisions. Alcohol can make you take risks, such as having sex before you’re ready, or having sex with someone you don't like. Drinking won't make the experience better. You’re more likely to regret having sex if you do it when you’re drunk. Find out more about sex and alcohol.

7: You can’t use clingfilm, plastic bags, crisp packets or anything else instead of a condom. They won't work.

There's a myth that you can use a plastic bag, clingfilm or a crisp packet instead of a condom. The truth is, you can't. Only a condom can protect against STIs.

You can get condoms free from:

    community contraceptive clinics
    sexual health and genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinics
    some young persons services

You can also buy them from pharmacies and shops. Make sure that they have the CE mark on them, as this means that they've been tested to European safety standards. Find sexual health services near you, including contraception clinics.

8: A boy’s testicles (balls) will not explode if he doesn’t have sex.

You may have heard the myth that if a boy doesn't have sex his balls will explode. The truth is, not having sex doesn't harm boys or girls, and a boy’s balls will not explode.

Boys and men produce sperm all the time. If they don’t ejaculate the sperm is absorbed into their body. Ejaculation can happen if they masturbate or have a wet dream. They don’t have to have sex. Find out about boys' bodies.

9: Condoms can't be washed out and used again.

Don't believe anyone who says that you can wash condoms and use them again. The truth is, you can't use a condom more than once, even if you wash it out. If you've used a condom, throw it away and use a new one if you have sex again.

This is true for male condoms and female condoms. Condoms need to be changed after 30 minutes of sex because friction can weaken the condom, making it more likely to break or fail. Get tips on using condoms.

10: You can get pregnant if you have sex only once.

You may have heard the myth that you have to have sex lots of times to get pregnant. The truth is, you can get pregnant if you have sex once. All it takes is for one sperm to meet an egg. To avoid pregnancy, always use contraception, and use a condom to protect against STIs.

11: You don't always get symptoms if you have an STI.

You may have heard the myth that you'd always know if you had an STI because it would hurt when you pee, or you’d notice a discharge, unusual smell or soreness. This isn't true.

Many people don't notice signs of infection, so you won't always know if you're infected. You can't tell by looking at someone whether they've got an STI. If you're worried that you've caught an STI, visit your GP or local sexual health clinic. Check-ups and tests for STIs are free and confidential, including for under-16s. Find out about sexual health services near you.

12: Women who have sex with women can get STIs.

You may have heard that women who sleep with women can’t get or pass on STIs. This isn't true. If a woman has an STI and has sex with another woman, the infection can be passed on through vaginal fluid (including fluid on shared sex toys), blood or close body contact. 

Always use condoms on shared sex toys, and use dams to cover the genitals during oral sex. A dam is a very thin, soft plastic square that acts as a barrier to prevent infection (ask about dams at a pharmacist or sexual health clinic). If a woman is also having sex with a man, using contraception and condoms will help to prevent STIs and unintended pregnancy.

13: Not all gay men have anal sex. 

You may have heard that all gay men have anal sex. This isn't true. Anal sex, like any sexual activity, is a matter of preference. Some people choose to do it as part of their sex life and some don’t, whether they're gay, straight, lesbian or bisexual.

According to the National Survey of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles (taken in 2000), 12.3% of men and 11.3% of women had had anal sex in the previous year. Whatever sex you have, use a condom to protect yourself and your partner against STIs. However, having sex isn't the only way to show your feelings for someone.

14: A girl is not ready to have sex just because she's started her periods.

You may have heard that a girl should be having sex once she starts having periods. This isn't true. Starting your periods means that you're growing up, and that you could get pregnant if you were to have sex. It doesn’t mean that you're ready to have sex, or that you should be sexually active. People feel ready to have sex at different times. It’s a personal decision. Most young people in England wait until they're 16 or older before they start having sex. Find out more about periods and the menstrual cycle.

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Are you ready for sex?

Are you ready for sex?

Most people have sex for the first time when they're 16 or older, not before. If someone’s boasting about having sex, it’s possible that they’re pretending.

Although there's a legal age of consent, it’s not necessarily the right age for you to start having sex. There are no rules about how long you have to be going out with someone before you do it. Being ready happens at different times for everyone – don't decide to have sex just because your friends are pressuring you. You can read this whole page or go straight to the sections:

    It's your decision
    Talking about sex
    10 questions to ask yourself
    Safer sex
    Lesbian, gay or bisexual couples
    How do I bring up the subject of safer sex?
    Read the signs that they want sex
    Alcohol or drugs won't help
    Sex and the law

It's your decision

You can always choose whether you want to have sex, whoever you're with. Just because you've done it before, even with the same person, doesn’t mean that you have to do it again. 

Working out whether you're ready is one of life’s big decisions. You're the only one who can, and should, decide. Whether you're thinking about losing your virginity or having sex again, remember the following tips.
Talking about sex

It’s better to have an embarrassing talk about sex than an embarrassing sexual encounter before you’re ready. There are lots of things to think and talk about, such as:

    are you both ready?
    will you be having sex for the right reasons and not because of peer pressure?

Sex isn’t the only aspect of a relationship, and there are other ways of enjoying each other’s company. Discuss what you want and what you don’t want to do. You can do other things that you both like, such as talking, meeting each other’s family and friends, going to gigs or the cinema, doing sport, walking, and listening to music.
10 questions to ask yourself

You need to have the confidence to work out how you want to respond if sex comes up, and how far to go. Ask yourself if you feel comfortable. Is it the right time, in the right place, and with the right person? Do you really trust the person, and do you feel the same way about one another?

If you think you might have sex, ask yourself the following questions:

    Does it feel right?
    Do I love my partner?
    Does he/she love me just as much?
    Have we talked about using condoms, and was the talk OK?
    Have we got contraception organised to protect against pregnancy? 
    Do I feel able to say ‘no’ at any point if I change my mind, and will we both be OK with that?

If you answer yes to all these questions, the time may be right. But if you answer yes to any of the following questions, it might not be:

    Do I feel under pressure from anyone, such as my partner or friends?
    Could I have any regrets afterwards?
    Am I thinking about having sex just to impress my friends or keep up with them? 
    Am I thinking about having sex in order to keep my partner?

Being in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to have sex. Even if you’ve done it once or twice you still need to make sure that your boyfriend or girlfriend is as keen as you each time.
Safer sex

When you decide to have sex, there's the possibility of pregnancy and/or catching a sexually transmitted infection (STI) such as chlamydia. Whoever you're thinking of having sex with, it's important to talk about contraception and condoms before you have sex. Both of you have a responsibility to have this conversation.
Condoms

You need to use condoms to reduce the risk of catching an STI, whoever you are having sex with. If you're a boy/girl couple, you need to use an additional form of contraception to prevent an unintended pregnancy.
Contraception

There are 15 different kinds of contraception, including the implant, injection, the combined pill and the progestogen-only pill. Most kinds of contraception are used by girls, but both of you have a responsibility to consider which you will use. A pregnancy will affect both of you.
Lesbian, gay or bisexual couples

If you have lesbian, gay or bisexual sex you can still get or pass on STIs. You still need to know about contraception in case you have straight sex as well. Find out more about sexual health for women who have sex with women and for men who have sex with men.
How do I bring up the subject of safer sex?

Starting a conversation about the different types of contraception could be a good way to start talking about other issues to do with sex, such as how you feel about it and what you do and don’t want to do. You could try saying, "I found out that there are 15 different types of contraception…If we were to have sex, which one should we use?"

And researching the options together will help both of you feel more confident and in control of the situation. Find out about the 15 different kinds of contraception.

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You can get free and confidential advice about sex, contraception and abortion at any time. Visit your local doctor, community contraceptive clinic, sexual health or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic (find your local services) or young persons clinic (call 0800 567 123) to find out more.
Read the signs that they want sex

Many people are surprised when a situation leads to sex, so learn to read the signs. If someone suggests that you find a quiet place, or makes lots of physcial contact, or suddenly tries to charm and flatter you, they might be thinking about sex, even if you’re not.

You need to decide whether you want to have sex. Don’t let someone else decide for you by just going along with it. Make the decision in advance and stay in control of the situation, especially if you've had alcohol, because you'll be less inhibited.

If you’re not sure that you can stay in control, avoid situations that could lead to sex, such as going to someone’s room or somewhere quiet.
Alcohol or drugs won't help

Many people have sex or lose their virginity when they’re drunk. After a few drinks, you're more likely to lose your judgement, and you may do things that you wouldn't do normally. You may regret your actions in the morning, and you won't be able to undo what you’ve done.

People are more likely to have sex without a condom when they're drunk. This can lead to an STI or unintended pregnancy.

Find out more about sex, alcohol and keeping safe.
Sex and the law

The law says that it's legal for you to consent (agree) to sex from the age of 16. If you're under 16, you can get confidential contraceptive and sexual health services, including abortions. You can get free condoms from some GPs, community contraceptive or young persons clinics, and Brook Advisory Centres.

If you're under 13, the situation is different because the law says that you can’t consent to sex at this age.

Find out more about confidentiality, whatever your age, in Will they tell my parents? 

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